At the end of this cycle of life…being right should not be as important as being kind.
We get such a small window of opportunity to get things right…not necessarily in conversation, but in action. We have this one single instance where what we say and how we say it, can really matter. We have this one chance to think and do…beyond ourselves. Today is the day when we get to make our mark…or leave marks. We can be a blessing to all of humanity or we can be the scar that no one ever wants to talk about
What do you want to leave behind?
What impact are you trying to have?
Are you worried about doing what is right…?
Or more concerned with how your actions will affect you, personally?
Most of the time when we are overly consumed by how a particular situation will touch us…personally
It becomes abundantly clear that our egos may feel they have a great stake in whatever happens.
This is about self.
And we must find a way to try and eliminate ourselves from every decision that is made, for the betterment of all things. For instance, we may want all children to have water to drink…but when we think that by giving them all a small glass of water…it could possibly take away a drink that you may want to have…we may try and rethink our idea of what is now, for the greater good of all. We may even come to the misguided conclusion; that our glass of water would hardly be missed…by children whom do not really have a lot to drink anyway. In this analogy what we have done is made an acceptable excuse for our greed.
How often in our lives do we do this?
How often do we take a solution and determine its merit, based on how it may or may not affect us?
Another great example of this is donating to charity.
During the holidays we may hear of celebrities and public figures donating time and energy to soup; kitchens…and while we may all agree that it is a selfless act; what if I told you that they only agreed to do this volunteer wok…if they would receive media attention for doing so…or at least be mentioned as a contributor.
How do you feel about that?
It is true that the homeless and the hungry may benefit from the extra help…but was it done for selfish reasons?
Does that matter?
Why? Or why not?
How we perceive ourselves has much to do with how we are received.
Are you THE most important thing in this life, or just your life?
There is nothing wrong with loving yourself…we all should fully appreciate who and what we are.
And hopefully, at the end of our tour here on earth…we can say with complete honesty…I gave my all. We just need to try and see if that is actually true.
If the purpose of doing what you do is to get that self-gratifying pat on the back…is our intention pure? Or is there a malicious intent attached to it?
We might actually be surprised at the thought, no idea that by thinking outside of ourselves…that we might actually do more good for others; with the fact that when our intentions are clear…the benefits will also come right back around to us.
Love is a self-generating light. We were born with this gift; the ability to love, just for the sake of being loving. When we do things out of the mere kindness of our hearts; we can clearly see how we are benefitted.
Should you matter? Of course.
Because in matter…we all play a part.
Often, we allow others to gear us up; with talk about what we deserve and what we should have. And we will arm ourselves with this false sense of entitlement; leaving us with a feeling of hopelessness. We may think that the reason this didn’t work out, for us, is because the odds weren’t in our favor.
But what if you were told that the only reason it didn’t work is because of the large part that you gave to yourself?
What if the only reason your great plan didn’t work…is because you spent so much time giving yourself credit…and not enough time humbling yourself?
We are, many times, under the misguided impression that because we have struggled with this or that; we no longer need to be gracious…
But is that the TRUTH?
How can one measure when humility is no longer needed?
Should we not be more concerned about the idea; that perhaps we are not thankful enough?
When do we question our higher power?
When we won the lottery?
When we got our dream job?
When we find unexpected money?
But we do have a tendency to question what in the universe is going on…when our lives seem to be going downhill.
Gratitude and humility walk hand in hand.
They are the sounds heard as the wave’s splash against the rocks.
They are the sound of crickets chirping.
They are the visual collective cornucopia of humming birds suspended in mid-flight.
They are the found in the laughter of children.
Be grateful; and don’t fear that in that gratitude you will be lost or forgotten.
Try and understand that no moment is promised.
Instead of competing with another person…work on being the better part of yourself.
The self that learned from his/her mistakes or short comings. Acknowledging that does not mean you are not good enough; but that you are evolving and constantly improving on yesterday’s idea of who you were.
This is not a flaw, for knowing that you aren’t perfect…is a part of what is perfect about you.
You can cleanse your soul…simply by purging what didn’t work yesterday.
And remember that it isn’t necessarily the actions that were the problem; because often it is just how we felt while doing it.
Your thoughts can blanket your good deeds like pollution…or emphasize it like the glorious rainbow. A rainbow never argues the fact that it is not as straight as it might like to be…yes, in its imperfection…it is perfect.
A rainbow cannot be housed or contained…
Allow your loving spirit to do the same…
Just allow yourself to be
Give yourself permission to be less than what the world may perceive to be perfect…enjoy it.
And remember when you try anything…with a little kindness…there is no mountain that you cannot climb.