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Decide


Decide

Things do not just happen

When you are riddled with a headache

When your day just feels heavy

Think back to the energy

Which you entertain

Bad things do not just happen

Set aside the ideas that

You are always sick…

Bad things always happen to you

That you just don’t make enough money…

These are self-proclaimed excuses for what is happening

Think instead…about…

Who you gave your energy to

What did you talk about

What jokes did you laugh at

It is perfectly okay to have a negative thought

It, in fact, is natural…

But did you follow it up with a thought of

Gratitude

Love

Kindness

Consideration?

Think hard about those which we give our attention to

What are they talking about…

And how you responded to them

Did you engage in gossip

Or did you shine light on the conversation

You will be amazed at the people who will not

Engage in negative conversations about others

Once they realize that you won’t play a part in them

Participate in your own life

Things do not just happen

We call to them

You cannot call upon indifference and expect kindness

You cannot conjure up hate and expect to prosper

What you call upon the universe to give you

You most certainly will receive

So be aware of your words

Be thoughtful in your speech

Be loving in even your thoughts

What you produce can be no more than what you are

Never expect a banana to grow on an orange tree

Be the light in which you seek

Be the compassion

Kindness

Empathetic

Loving

Beautiful

Person…that you will search for

Life is not a random series of events

The world is not out to get you

But sometimes you have to look outside of yourself

Detach yourself from your emotions

Think like a God or Goddess

Set aside the ideas of what about me

What do I deserve

When will I get this or that

When will it be my time…

Because my loves…

Your time is NOW…

Conquer your thoughts

And the victory will be yours

Remember that someone somewhere

Is watching …

Wondering why we laughed at their expense

Why our entertainment

Came at such a high price to them…

And for one moment …

Be them…

Embrace your beauty…

Which is held within

And shine your light into the darkness

Participate in your own life

And watch what beauty and love you can create

And it is so simple…

Because you only have to

Decide

You Are Perfect


Whether you are celebrating Christmas, Kwanzaa, Hanukkah..or none of the above
Whether this was a stellar year
Or if you had unforeseen hardships
If you were healthy
Or you struggled with a chronic illness
This past year was an opportunity
It was a year of growth
A year of gain
2015 was not easy for so many of my friends and family…
Myself included…
But do not allow it to steal your joy…
When we are given the opportunity to grow…
It is a clear sign of how deeply we are and have been loved
Everywhere you look
You will find people whose struggles are a bit different from yours
Let us try and keep those beautiful people in our minds
As we wrap up this most adventurous year
Let us take a moment to pray or meditate
To re-focus our energy on what really matters…
You are still here
That is not an accident…
You are what made someone smile…
You are the foundation of someone’s laughter
Their sign that hope is still alive…
So while our children are unwrapping presents
Or bowing their heads in gratitude
Remember that…
Love knows No Boundaries
It carries no price tag
It looks for no thanks
Or pat on the back
Instead let us look back at 2015 with fondness
And whether it was a lesson or a blessing for you
The fact that you are here with us right now
Makes you a blessing to me and those whom I love
On behalf of my family
My Rays of Light Publishing
and
#Ninetribe
We want to thank you for all that you have become
It has been amazing to watch you grow
So enjoy your holiday
But remember always
That you are perfect…
And We Love You…Always

For My Ladies


Good Morning My Ladies,
Forgiveness is important
It restores our soul
It gives us strength
However…
If we do not forgive ourselves…
How can we genuinely
Forgive anyone else?
There is an old Afrikan proverb that tells us
Never trust a man who gives you a shirt
When he is wearing none
Forgive YOU
No matter what you may have done
We all deserve THAT kindness
We all deserve THAT kind of love
This morning, before you start your day…
Extend that white flag…to yourself
It’s okay…
YOU MATTER
And no matter what anyone else tells you
YOU ARE VALUABLE
Treasure YOU
Love yourself…
Watch how it encourages others to love you, as well
It is a true honor…just knowing you
GET TO KNOW YOURSELF
Keep in mind that NO MAN can give you
SELF WORTH
Treat yourself…to SELF LOVE
Watch your smiles multiply
My hope for you on this beautiful Friday…
Is that you will see the beauty in yourself…
That I see and appreciate in each one of you

I LOVE YOU ALWAYS

Where Do Broken Hearts Go


Where Do Broken Hearts Go?

 

Where do broken hearts go? This Whitney Houston song came to me today; I loved her music, but it was the next line that spoke to me…”When they can’t find their way home”.

Today while I was out running errands, trying to figure out what to have for lunch…clinching my water bottle like it was my life line…I stumbled across today’s blessing.

Something caught the corner of my eye, I saw a young woman, in her early twenties. She was dressed neatly, nothing extravagant or too simple. I smiled at her; then I proceeded to watch her go through a trash can and dig. After I took a moment to absorb this; I thought maybe she was collecting aluminum cans, or even maybe looking for change that someone threw away unintentionally. I was saddened…as I watched this beautiful woman dig out of the trash can, a McDonald’s cup. She took off the lid, to look inside. She placed the lid and straw back on the cup and drank whatever was inside of it. I could feel my heart breaking, for her, and then for myself…having watched it.

I looked at her for a moment too long, and as she looked at me…a single tear fell down her face. There really is nothing more sad than a single tear…even deep sobs don’t bother me as much. They are the tears that say…I’ve been holding on as long as I can…and I just need to let go. My eyes swelled with tears. She came up to me and told me that I had a beautiful smile…and all at once we had a matching tear. I reached for my sealed bottle of SmartWater, feeling thankful that I had not yet opened it. I told her that I am always telling my husband that he doesn’t drink enough water and handed it to her…along with whatever lunch money I had in my hand, no longer caring about my lunch.

She smiled and said…your heart is probably the only thing larger than your smile. We both laughed. This light came across her face, as if it was the first time she had seen laughter in a while. She went on to say I was angelic, and even that statement brought tears to my eyes. She wished me well and we walked away from one another.

I have thought about her constantly since the meeting. I wonder how she will eat tonight, or if she even will eat tonight. I wondered how this happened to her. I prayed silently and out loud for her…for all of us.

Where do broken hearts go…when they can’t find their way home?

This was my blessing of the day…

I think that most of us may not feel angelic…I know that I don’t always feel that way. I fall short. I don’t mean to…and I always feel badly afterwards. I, like most, am flawed. I can be selfish and short on patience. But, today…I loved this woman. I loved her strength…and she loved me back, even though it wasn’t expected from either one of us.

We can do better, I thought. No, I can do better. Yes, I can.

My message for this day, be patient and forgiving of yourself. If you cannot forgive yourself, how can anyone trust that you will forgive them? Be patient, we are all works in progress. Remember that looks are deceiving, this woman looked like no homeless or indigent person…I had ever envisioned in my mind. Everyone is fighting some war…we don’t have to be a part of that.

Try a little tenderness; we all have battle scars. Wouldn’t be better if we didn’t crack open one another’s wounds with our words or maliciousness?

Where do broken hearts go? They go to a most loving Creator and that Creator sends them to one of us. It is the fact that even WE are so loved that we are given the opportunity to be tender with complete strangers.

Today…be the bandage and not the gash…which may heal the broken hearts, which find their way to our souls.

 

What If


What If

 

Most of us were raised to be just like everyone else. We have been taught what to think, how to dress, how to respond to others and to not speak until spoken to.

But What If…

What if we dared to think outside of the box?

What if we chose the path less travelled?

What if we asked why or why not?

What if we found a way to exceed, even what our dreams are for ourselves?

What then?

WE get to choose what road we take; be responsible for it.

Why do we choose silence over action?

Does action always have to be violent?

What if we taught our children to embrace the uniqueness, which is them?

What if we taught our children, through example, to appreciate the things that make us all different…yet the same?

What if the way to end war…was in a single drop of water?

What if we realized the most beautiful beaches…started with a drop of water and a grain of sand?

What if we stopped behaving like ants…and began seeking our own way, in spite of controversy?

What if we started shining and stopped covering up our light?

What if we had no boundaries holding us back?

What if…YOU ALONE ARE ENOUGH?

What if we ended hate, by acting, reacting, and responding with pure unwavering love?

What if we found God in everything?

What if we realized that every day…we could make a difference?

What if we embraced every dream?

What if we made the hurting stop…not through retaliation…but with the heart of a child, who thinks anything is possible?

What if we realized that we are more powerful with a single “I Love You”, than with all weapons of mass destruction?

What if you realized that all that you see in me…is a mere reflection of yourself?

What if we decided to smile…and watched that smile cultivate in the hearts of our brothers?

What if we became the change we seek in others?

What if we weighed our words more heavily than our pockets?

What if we reached out instead of walking away?

What if we tried a little kindness?

What if we recognized ourselves in others…and smiled?

What if we did…without expectation?

What if we dared to dream and allowed others to do the same?

What if we REALLY loved one another?

Yes…What If…

 


Where Does Your Heart Lie

  I was looking at photographs the other day, of homeless or underprivileged children. The photographer was trying to create awareness, and attention to this ongoing problem in our world. He was smart enough to know that people tend to be more sympathetic towards small children and any suffering they may go through, as opposed to any other age group. And, as was the expected effect, I was saddened, beyond words.

However today, it had me thinking a little deeper, into the state of the human condition. The pictures I saw were moving. It led me to think about something I saw once about homeless people living under a bridge. No one was taking pictures of these people, except to draw attention to what an eye sore they were. It bothered people, who were DRIVING past to go to their air conditioned offices, to have to see someone in that state. The people were not asking for money, they weren’t even asking for food…they had signs asking for a job. They didn’t want a handout; they wanted to EARN their own way. But instead, they got a petition started about them, because people driving passed didn’t want to feel bad about driving past them. Imagine…they wanted to feel good, so they had to NOT eliminate the problem, but to not have to SEE the problem. I suppose it would be different if I said this was happening in another country, because we tend to only care about those causes when it is politically correct, and we are expected to care. How many opportunities does God have to give us, to show love to others? Would it have been more difficult for those people to drive past a 5 year old living under the bridge?  Where is our compassion? What has happened to our hearts? Why have we gone cold? Are we ever thinking that the man under the bridge may be trying to find work for a family, which depends on him, everyday? And all we gave him was a slap on the hand, saying “looking at you reminds me that I am not doing what God meant for me to do”. I’m not saying that the people who drove past were bad people, just that they weren’t showing compassion and love to one of God’s creatures…and don’t we know by now that we are supposed to love one another?

Of course, the real problem is that we never put ourselves into any one else’s shoes. We never think about how hard life must be for that person, or his family. We never think about how humbling it must be to have to stand under a bridge all day long asking some one to give us a chance to earn our own way. There are people in this country that think it is embarrassing to not have 250 cable channels, or to get a cell phone turned off for non-payment; never mind having to carry a sign under a bridge. And we think God is looking down on us, smiling?

We are so quick to pass judgment on people, and there appearance or circumstances. We REALLY believe it could never be us. We need to remember, most likely, that man wasn’t born homeless. Things happen, people lose jobs, homes, and cars…the thing that make us feel that we are better than the next person. How long would you feel this way, if you were trying to support a family…with the wrong LOOK? Never mind not having a car, or the only car you have is the one your family lives out of. Do you know that if a homeless person lives out of their car, that the state will take away their children? And instead of helping…we judge; saying things like people “like that” shouldn’t have children. We all are victims of circumstance…just because you believe you have it all doesn’t mean anything…that “belief” is an illusion.

What lessons are we teaching our children? Remember the most important lessons, are the ones NOT spoken…but observed. Why do we only see homeless or hungry children on the commercials asking for money? Because those organizations know that we, as people, think that an adult…could have made better decisions. It is my deepest hope for mankind…that God DOESN’T know the intentions of all of our hearts.

The important thing to remember is this…it is a new day. We can wake up today, and decide to do the right thing.

Spoon Talk


Spoon Talk

What is this spoon talk

Amongst Lupus heroes

They symbolize our energy

How fast it can go

You need one to get up

But don’t be too fast

For one spoon opens your eyes

That’s how long a spoon lasts

Throughout the day you have

Limited spoons to use

By mid day you are

Running on a short  fuse

Who would have thought

A conversation would take

So much energy…a spoon

Concessions we must make

Oh and the smiles

They are deceptive too

But she doesn’t want

This to be a burden to you

So she smiles and laughs

While spoons are being spent

Until she realizes that

Her energy…it went

I guess if fatigue was

The extent of this disease

It would be a cake walk

Like a soft blowing breeze

But there is the pain and swelling

There are the organs shutting down

There are the tears she sheds

When no one else is around

There is the knowledge that

Lupus tends to create

Pain, bruising, swelling

The rashes, fatigue…the aches

Its amazing exactly how much

One shining smile can hide

Fear of the unknown

Lupus is a frightening ride

She gives a spoon for this

And a spoon for that

It may get you going

But how do you get back

Every idea you have

Every motion you make

Every attempt at normalcy

Is ALL lupus takes

So I am sharing with you

On this unspecific day

Be aware that this disease

Wants to kill all in its way

So my prayers are lifted up

And my heart it breaks

I know your struggles

How your strength breaks

Lupus and spoons

One day will be done

Keep hope in your hearts

This war will be won

I am sending you a smile

Healing energy and joy

For those days when

Your life feels a void

From my heart to yours

Til we fear the spoon no more

I wish you love and joy

Make memories galore

You Are Loved


You Are Loved
We are so particular
Fixing our hair every day
We could hardly be seen
Looking half done this way

We select our clothes carefully
Sometimes the night before
Planned often days ahead
Sometimes even more

Yet while we are spending
Our time looking at us
What are we overlooking
Making our intentions unjust

If our hearts were as beautiful
As our faces and hair
We would never judge another
Yes, let’s start there

We look down upon others
While smiling in their face
Saying I do not judge anyone
Yet cursing their race

We impose our belief system
Upon others in our way
Saying it is as I tell you
No matter what you may say

We have railroaded people
Locked them in chains
Yet criticize them when
Only anger remains

We watch our women be abused
Our children being assaulted
But why even get involved
It’s not our fault…is it

Not our fault…really?
How did this thought transpire
Like watching people burning
While we walk right past the fire

If you care about self
As we all have tendency to do
While casting aside others
Who deserve the same things too

We are failing to reach High
Not doing what we should
Always talking about how we can’t
Knowing full well that we could

Acting like loving is a punishment
For a spiritual crime
Thinking not of our brothers
Because we are still stuck on “mine”

When we can not see the forest
Because of those worthless trees
We no longer must wonder why
Our garden is full of weeds

For while you may have success
Money, fame and things
You will become a victim of ego
And the punishment that brings

For ego is not real, however
When we create it within
We have edged away God
The only TRUE sin

For you are not greater or wiser
Than anyone or anything here
You have, in fact, lost focus
So you will live in real fear

Fear that one day someone
Will see you for who you are
Not an angel of truth
But a faint falling star

So start today, it’s so easy
Reach out for a hand to shake
Start loving all that
He did create

And at the end of the day
Give thanks for those touched
So you may be reminded why
You are loved so much

I Remember


I Remember
I remember when
My life was forever changed
When I looked at another
And saw them the same …
I saw not a skin color
Or geographical locale
They looked different than me
Yet the same somehow
That was when I got it
When The Light broke through
When I stopped being me
And started being you
When I wanted for my brother
What I prayed for myself
When I asked God’s blessings
For everything else
So on this day of my journey
I wish you blessings and love
And Grace from Him
Who watches from above
So until next time my lovelies
Here’s a hug from my heart to you
May you walk in peace
With all that you do

I Love You


I Love You

I love you like

The sunshine gives way to night

I love you like

The moon…makes room for new light

I love you like

A branch releases his brother leaf

I love you like

Happiness chases away our grief

I love you like

A rainbow’s arch so vibrant and bold

I love you knowing

That the best has yet to be told

I love you like

A river becomes populated by the stream

I love you with

Peace untold…your most wondrous dream

I love you like

The snowy peaks looking down on ice castle homes

I love you always

No matter where in life…that you may roam

I love you, my child

Because whatever differences that people may see

You were created to be a reminder

That you are all in the likeness of me

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